No shame here — just the list
It just happened.
Pick the one that’s closest:
- I think I just sent money to someone I shouldn’t have. →
- I think I just gave someone information I shouldn’t have. →
- I think someone got into my phone, my computer, or one of my accounts. →
The list is free, it’s in order, and it doesn’t ask for your email. The first call is in the next ten minutes. If it’s your mom or dad, everything here works the same.
If money moved: call your bank’s fraud line first. Now.
Use the number on the back of your card or a paper statement. Ask for a fraud flag on the account and — if it was a wire — a wire recall. Minutes matter here. Everything else on this page can wait ten minutes; this can’t.
Not sure which call is first? Answer four questions.
Tell it how the money left and when. It tells you tonight’s first call and the words to say when someone picks up. Free, no account, about ninety seconds.
Prefer paper? The First 72 Hours (PDF, free, 10 pages) — today, tomorrow and the day after, in order. Print it, put it by the phone.
I clicked a link
- Don’t enter anything on the page it opened. Close it.
- If you typed a password anywhere after clicking, change that password now — and everywhere you reuse it.
- Run your device’s built-in security scan (Windows Security, or a scan from an app store you trust).
- Watch the relevant account for a few weeks; turn on login alerts if offered.
- Report the message: forward scam texts to 7726 (SPAM) and report at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.
Clicking alone is usually survivable — it’s what gets typed afterward that hurts. If you entered card or bank details, jump to that section below.
I gave someone a password
- Change that password immediately — from a device the scammer never touched, if possible.
- Change it everywhere else you use the same or similar password. This is the step people skip; it’s the one that matters most.
- Turn on two-factor authentication for that account and your email.
- Check the account’s recovery settings — scammers add their own email or phone as a backdoor. Remove anything you don’t recognize.
- If it was a bank or investment password, call that institution’s fraud line too.
I shared a verification code
- Assume the account that sent the code is being taken over right now. Log in immediately and change the password.
- If you can’t log in, use the “forgot password” flow right away and reclaim it before they change the recovery details.
- If the code was from your bank, call the fraud line — a code often means a payment or login was being approved.
- If it was a phone-carrier code, call your carrier: ask if a SIM swap or number transfer was just requested, and add a port-out PIN.
- Review recent activity on the account and turn on two-factor authentication.
I gave banking or card information
- Call the number on the back of the card. Report it compromised; they’ll cancel and reissue.
- If it was a bank account number and routing number, ask the bank to watch or close/reopen the account.
- Dispute any charges you didn’t make — card disputes strongly favor you; act within your statement cycle.
- Freeze your credit at all three bureaus (free, 15 minutes): Equifax 888-378-4329, Experian 888-397-3742, TransUnion 800-916-8800.
- Watch statements closely for two cycles — small “test” charges come first.
I sent a wire transfer (or Zelle/Venmo)
- Call your bank’s fraud line immediately and say the words “I need a wire recall.” Recalls sometimes succeed in the first hours; they rarely succeed after a day.
- File at ic3.gov the same day — the FBI’s Financial Fraud Kill Chain can sometimes freeze funds on large recent wires.
- For Zelle/Venmo/Cash App: report the payment as fraud inside the app AND to your bank.
- Save everything — messages, receipts, account numbers you sent to. Screenshots now; they disappear later.
- Report at ReportFraud.ftc.gov, and ignore anyone who contacts you promising recovery for a fee — that’s the same scammers coming back.
I paid with gift cards
- Find the cards and receipts. Call the gift-card company now — Apple: 800-275-2273 · Google Play: 855-466-4438 · Amazon: 888-280-4331 · Target: 800-544-2943 · Walmart: 888-537-5503. Fast calls occasionally freeze remaining balances.
- Ask the store where you bought them if a refund is possible on unspent cards.
- Keep the physical cards and receipts as evidence.
- Report at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.
- Be kind to yourself. Gift-card scams are engineered to keep you on the phone and off-balance — this works on sharp people every single day.
I sent cryptocurrency
- Stop all further payments — especially “fees to unlock your withdrawal.” Every additional payment is lost.
- File at ic3.gov with wallet addresses, transaction IDs, amounts, and dates. This is the report that matters for crypto.
- If you used an exchange (Coinbase, Kraken, etc.), report the fraud to them — they can flag destination wallets.
- Save every message and screenshot of the platform before it disappears.
- Treat any “crypto recovery service” that contacts you as a scam. Only law enforcement recovers crypto, and they never charge.
I allowed remote access to my computer
- Disconnect it from the internet now — unplug the cable or turn off Wi-Fi.
- From a different device, change your email and banking passwords.
- Call your bank if you ever use that computer for banking — ask them to watch the account.
- Uninstall anything they had you install (AnyDesk, TeamViewer, UltraViewer are common), and run a full security scan. When in doubt, have a local shop you chose wipe it.
- If they showed you a “refund” and asked for gift cards or a return payment — that was theater; see the gift-card section above.
I gave personal identity information (SSN, Medicare, DOB)
- Freeze your credit at all three bureaus — free, and the single strongest lock: Equifax 888-378-4329 · Experian 888-397-3742 · TransUnion 800-916-8800.
- Go to IdentityTheft.gov — the FTC builds you a personal recovery plan.
- If Medicare numbers were shared, call 1-800-MEDICARE (800-633-4227) and watch statements for services you didn’t receive.
- File your taxes early next season — it beats fraudsters to your refund.
- Watch bank and credit card statements for two cycles.
Someone took over my email or social account
- Try the provider’s account-recovery page immediately (search “[provider] account recovery”). Speed beats the scammer changing your backup email.
- Once in: change the password, remove unknown recovery emails/phones and connected devices, and turn on two-factor authentication.
- Email first, always — it’s the master key to your other accounts. Secure it before anything else.
- Warn your contacts: the scammer may already be messaging them “stranded, need money” in your name.
- Check for auto-forwarding rules in email settings — scammers add them to keep reading your mail after you change the password.
I’m emotionally involved with someone who may be a scammer
This is the hardest one, because part of what you feel is real — your part was always real. That’s not foolishness; that’s being a person.
- Don’t announce anything to them yet. Just pause all money — “my bank froze my account” works fine as a reason.
- Reverse-image-search their photos and reread the money requests with fresh eyes, or with one trusted person.
- Talk to someone before deciding anything: the AARP Fraud Watch Helpline 877-908-3360 is free, kind, and has heard every version of this story.
- If money moved, work the wire/gift-card/crypto sections above — without shame. This crime has professional scripts and full-time practitioners.
- Expect grief. It’s a real loss, and treating it as one is how people come out whole.
I’m helping a parent or loved one
- Lead with the money, not the argument: if funds are moving, help them call the bank’s fraud line first. Debate later.
- Never say “How could you fall for this?” Say “These are professionals — this happens to sharp people every day.” You need them talking, not defending.
- Work the relevant section above together, with them holding the phone wherever possible — dignity is protective.
- If they’re not ready to hear it (common in romance scams), stay close, stay kind, and call 877-908-3360 (AARP) or 833-372-8311 (DOJ Elder Justice) for coaching on next moves.
- Afterward, set up the protections as a family — safe word, pause-before-payment rule: the Family Scam-Safety Plan.
Then: report it (10 minutes that count)
Reports are how patterns get caught and other families get warned — and they matter for any bank dispute.
- ReportFraud.ftc.gov — the FTC, for every scam type
- ic3.gov — the FBI, whenever money moved online
- DOJ Elder Justice Hotline — 833-372-8311, case guidance for older adults
- AARP Fraud Watch Helpline — 877-908-3360, free, talk to a person
One warning while you recover: ignore anyone who contacts you promising to get your money back for a fee. “Recovery services” that find you are the second wave of the same scam.
Take this with you
Everything on this page, in order, on paper. Free.
The First 72 Hours is the whole method: the first hour, day one, days two and three (including what to say when the bank says no), the second scam to watch for, and a page for when it’s your mom or dad. Ten pages. No email required.
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Want a check-in each day for the next week? What to look for and what to do that day, from someone who has been where you are. Nothing to buy inside them. Unsubscribe any time.
For the night you feel most alone in this — I wrote a book about the year I spent not telling anyone I’d been scammed. It’s $9.99 and you can read it tonight. FOOLED — the digital edition →
If it’s your parent and you want the words, the questions and the safeguards for the talk that comes after this: The Parent Protection Playbook →
If you want the calls built in your order, or a person on the line while you make them, both exist: the Kit and the guided response. Everything above is free either way.
No bank logins. No account access. No shame. The scammer’s whole plan is that you panic. This is the opposite of panic: a list, in order, that someone else already thought through for you.
Last reviewed September 2026 · Phone numbers verified September 2026 · Sources: FTC, FBI IC3, AARP Fraud Watch Network, credit bureau published contacts.